My Man, My Daddy

[Mahogany Momma]

Thinking on Paper I
From the diapers to the diaphragm I just don't understand why my lack of a father affects my need for a man.
Touched By Boys Loved By Men
A Collection of Poems by LaShanda Henry


It's a Father Daughter Thing
An Excerpt of Proud Poppas - Maghoany Momma Guide #10
No one will argue that sons need their fathers. Dads know how to teach their little boys to grow up and be men. They provide them with the type of discipline and insight that only a father can give. Words can not express how important it is for every boy to have a father, but what about every little girl? Is it equally important for our girls to have a father figure in their lives?

The truth is that every little girl needs her father. Fathers do a lot more for their daughters than simply serve as a source of protection. They can teach their daughters how to be just as strong as little boys. Moreover, fathers have the ability to show young girls what a healthy man-woman relationship should be through their interaction with their spouse, children, and others. Every woman looking for a good man should be able to find someone who reminds her of her father.

Actor, Gwyneth Paltrow expressed the impact her father had on her life in a very touching episode of Oprah. She spoke of the time her father took her on her first trip to Paris. Upon returning home from what could only be described as an amazing experience, Gwyneth’s dad asked her if she knew why the two of them took this trip without the rest of the family. When she replied no, he told her it was because he wanted her first trip to Paris to be with a man who would always love her. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every father could express such a sentiment to their daughter in their own way?

In short, both our boys and our girls need to have positive father figures around them so that they can visualize and hopefully recreate more healthy family structures within the black community.

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[Kiri Love]

Thank you for this. Since I've joined the social network community on the internet,
I have realized that 75% of the women are stuck on moving past a relationship with them and a bitter love, that the children's relationship with the father becomes the casualty. Women want to talk about the healing process for them, 'don't call him girl, let him call you', show him that you don't need him, etc, etc, etc,

But the children are NOT the priority anymore, proving a point to a man is.

I got tons of messages telling me to move on, and don't bother my 'babydaddy' anymore, by various women. I never loved him, and we never were in a committed relationship. So he is so confused by his sisters and women telling him that I want him and want to be a family with him. He can't see his daughter without believing there is a chance for him to 'come hit it'. I moved on when I was pregnant. All I wanted for him to do is be a good father so I can continue to travel, and motorcycle cross country, and work long hours, and date. but of course that was his problem, he don't want to see me happily moved on, with help from him so I can do all these things.

My point being; IT IS MY CRUSADE TO MAKE PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THAT MY DAUGHTER AND HER FATHER'S RELATIONSHIP SHOULD TAKE PRECEDENCE OVER ALL THE BS THAT IS GOING ON. I want to be an unapologetic example to other women whose going through my experience. http://www.myspace.com/kirilove

[Mahogany Momma]

I hear that Kiri. It's important, especially when you are dealing with a dad who wants to have a strong relationship with his child. Irregardless of how the two of you feel about each other, you have to make it work for the children because they deserve two parents. The reality is, once you had his child, you were tied to him for life, and that is not a bond that can be easily broken.

-lh