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Accept or Reject your spouses friend request...

Would you accept or reject your spouses request to be your friend on Facebook??? Why or why not?

Permalink Reply by LaVender on November 10, 2009 at 12:15pm: My hubby doesn't have a FB page, but I do and many of his friends do. I've tried to get him to join the FB family, but he doesn't have a desire to. I would definitely accept his request or even request him to be my friend. It just leaves a clean slate of loyalty and honesty. Character plays a big part on facebook. If you're shady in life, it will definitely show on FB.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by adrienne strachn on November 12, 2009 at 3:55am: OK TAKE IT FROM EXPERIENCE .GOOD OLE ME. I WANTED MINES TO HAVE FACEBK, MYSPACE, AND TWITTER... HE GOT ON MYSPACE FOR AWHILE, BLACKPLANET.. HIS FRIENDS, MY FRIENDS WROTE HIM.. THEN OTHER WOMAN WOULD WRITE HIM.. HE WAS ALLOWED TO HAVE FRIENDS CAUSE HE WAS ALLOWED TO SEE MY PAGE IF HE WANTED. WHICH I ONLY HAD MY PERSONAL MALE FRIENDS ON.. I AM NOT ON TO FIND ANOTHER MAN. BUT THEN WOMAN WOULD WRITE HIM, TELL THEIR MEASUREMENTS, SEND FLOWERS, AT FIRST IT WAS FUNNY.. UNTIL ONE DAY , ON BLACK PLANET, THIS WOMAN WAS TALKING TO HIM ABOUT HER BREAST AND SIZE.....I AM NOT CLEARING HIM, HE IS A MAN. HE DIDN'T THINK I WOULD COME IN THE ROOM.. WHEN I DID HE SHOWED ME WHAT THIS WOMAN WROTE , SHE WAS FROM GA. AND HE WAS LAUGHING. BUT, BUT HE DID ANSWER HER, SAYING HE WAS A BREAST MAN.. THE NERVE... TO ME THAT WAS INTERNET CHEATING.. LISTEN TO ME.. MY HUSBAND DID NOT WANT TO DO THESE SITES AT FIRST. OK.. I PUSHED , THOUGHT IT WOULD BE COOL.. SEND LOVE NOTES.. NOPE, IF YOUR MAN SAY'S NO. .. LEAVE HIM ALONE.. MY MAN DO NOT TOUCH THE COMPUTER ONLY FOR JAZZ AND BLOCKBUSTER MOVIES. AHHAAH "BE CAREFUL WHAT U PRAY FOR" AND YOU CAN SHOW YOUR MAN THIS.... KEEP YOUR MAN RIGHT THERE WITH YOU.....MINES IS RIGHT HERE BY ME.....; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by LaVender on November 12, 2009 at 9:40am: You are so right. I should be grateful hubby has no desire to participate in social networking. Thanks for your words of wisdom!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Spirit Filled on November 13, 2009 at 1:06pm: My hubby has done his dirt "online" and now that we are married he thinks I will use it the same way he did. I have given him every password to every site I visit. And if he did want to be my "friend" I would accept. BUT...he stays far far away from the internet ; ); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nappykat on November 16, 2009 at 5:05am: OK I got it. At first I thought the friend of your spouse was asking to be your friend on facebook, to which I didn't see a problem. But your husband is on facebook and is sending you a request to be his friend.

I don't see a proble with that either unless you're the jealous type. Because yeah, other women and people in general will write him, and if you know you're the jealous type then reject it. And you already talking about how he done his 'dirt' online - that to me tells me you might need to reject his request because that's a setup for you to find to more dirt - and if you go looking for dirty drawls you'll find some or may even fabricate some.

But if he wants to add you then he's extending the beacon of trust right there because he knows you'll see what was written and who his friends are. if you are not ready for that then I guess you should reject it.; ▶ Reply to This