Advice About Sleepovers.

[Single Mama Diva]

Hey listen guys!

My daughter is 11 and she is starting to want to participate in sleepovers with her friends. This did not seem like an issue when we were in our hometown, because I knew everybody. Where I come from sleepovers are okay if it's family or if you know the family through some generations. Now that we are in a new city she is making friends and the issue has come up.

For the first few times I have let her friends sleep over at our house, but now my daughter is wanting to take it further and go to theirs. Although she has one friend that I am now comfortable with it's still hard for me to let her go. Is it fair for me to rule out sleep overs all together except for when we go home to vist, or just get over it and let her go?

I am not really a big fan of sleepovers anyway, but I don't wanna seem like a party-pooper.

[Nicholle]

I am always in favor of meeting the parents on several occasions before the sleepover. Have you met them at Open House night at school? or the PTA meeting? Have you ever been by the house for a visit or chat? Have you had extended conversations with the parents? Has your daughter been over there just to play for a few hours?

For me- and I have boys- I need to know the parents/family, and since we are also in a new town, this involves a series of Interviews as I call them. I have to meet them on more than one occasion, see how they parent/handle their kids, and see how the kids interact together during the short term- a few hours- before I commit to something more.

I think you'll feel more confident and capable of making a decision after a few meetings.

[paulla]

My kids hate me for this too, they have asked me till they are blue in the face and i tell them no till i am red
in the face. I told them no sleep overs, i need to meet mommy, daddy, and the whole damn family
before you go to somebody's house for a sleep over, nope,nope nope,

They call me a SARGEANT because i am so strict with them. hmm for their protection, but
they just dont understand,

[Margaret Rogers]

I agree with the posts above son is almost 16 and he is only permitted to sleep over at two friends house. I've known the parents for no less than 10 years. He doesn't like it, but oh well! He still can't go to parties and such until I speak tot he parents either! LOL!