How do you discipline a 1 year old?

[Donna]

I'm at odds with how to discipline me 14 month old son. When I try to correct him from doing something he's not suppose to or take something away from him, he like to cry and fall out on the floor. In addition to falling out he also likes to bang his head on what ever is in reach.

He likes to throw things, run from me when I call him, hit me, bit me, and if it doesn't want to it he will make himself vomit (I hate this the most). He doesn't have ADD or any other condition he's just very active. People are telling me to spank him but I don't want to just spank him all the time.

[Francine]

My son is super active too. I would not advise you to spank your child. My husband and i spank my 2 1/2 year old, he was about 18 months at the time. A few days later, when he did something wrong and we raised our voice at him, he started to hit himself really hard and cry.

My son does the same thing your son does but what we do is send him to his room or make him lay down for a little bit when he gets out of control. We do this everytime he acts out. Eventually, he gets the idea that hitting, bitting and carrying on is not acceptable. After he has sometime in his room, we talk to him about. If you do this consistently, he will eventually get the picture and you will see a chance in his behavoir.

[Donna]

Thanks Francine, I will definitely start doing that today. Can you also tell me how to deal with him when he acts out in public?

[Francine]

Remember when you were a kid and you did something wrong and your mother looked at you or she gave you that tone of voice and you know your behind is in trouble. Well that is what you have to develope. My husband and I have a certain look we give Jabu or if we talk to him in a certain tone of voice, he knows to behave himself. It takes time but when you get it and you are out in public and he acts up and you give him the look or talk to him in that voice, trust me, he shuts right up and behave.

Sometimes what I also do if Jabu have a breakdown is pick him up, hug him and talk to him calmly. the more you get upset, the more he will act up. When you talk to him calmly, more than likely, he himself will calm down.

But try and develope a certain tone in your voice and use that tone only when he misbehave. Then put him in his roon for a little bit. If he does it again, do what you did again. Over and over until he understands that if he misbehaves, he will be punished in that way.

For us, it has gotten to the point when Jabu is rude, I look at him and say "Go to your room". He will run off crying but he goes straight to his room until I tell him to come out.

Let me know if my ideas works