I need your opinons ladies

[Germanie]

Okay, have any of you ever had a friend that you have noticed whenever you say that you are going to do something. She tries to do it first? I have this neighbor that I have known for 4 yrs now and we actually just started back talking due to drama in the past. Now that we are talking she back to her old ways and have adopted new ways. Let me explain.....She is not very street wise when it comes to men. So she is desperately looking for one. Now I have noticed that she has changed somethings about herself. She now wants tattoos, she does not attend church like she use to. She also is now trying to be more hip to terminologies used to describe drugs since she dated someone who use to smoke weed. We both have moved into a complex where we have met some other women (most of them mothers such as myself) who have bigger apts then her and myself. We have two bedrooms. I will be upgrading soon and since then she is now wanting the same and she has no children. We all are section 8 recipients.I just found it funny that she wants what she sees everyone else have. Don't get me wrong I am happy that she is healthy and doing her thing but I also noticed that since she has started school, she wants to be the only one to get praise for it. Now I am completing my bachelor's and I noticed the other day that when I was talking to one of the women in my complex and we talked about my schooling. She had this look on her face as like to say so what. I have also noticed that when I got my hair done (which was for pictures with my family ) she never once complimented ( not that I was looking for one) but complained about the money I spent which was sixty dollars that was two weeks ago. Since then she has gotten her hair done and wants everyone to notice and compliment. Another scenario is when we were talking about getting new furniture and I stated I wanted leather. Low and behold she went and got a leather set. I have noticed that she is very competitive and wants to be the center of attention. I have never been a jealous person nor competitive. I have always been a supportive friend and never look at myself as being better than anyone. There is more to this story but I am just giving you ladies the basics. I wanted to know what you ladies think about this scenario? I have spoken to people close to me and they told me to leave her alone. I have to admit that I have been getting bad vibes off of her lately.  What do you ladies think?

UPDATE:

Since then I have really decided to keep my distance. I am too focused on completing my studies and my children. I do however will speak if we cross paths; but I think its in my best interest to stay away. She has told my daughter that she does not know what's going on though, she is not the type to approach and ask what the problem is and she takes everything personal even if a person's actions is not an intentional action. We are both on different paths and I just wish her the best.

[tee k]

Hello, I kinda went through a situation like that before. My suggestion to you is to just pray for her. She may actually admire you and the things u have. I had to realize that for myself, there was a person everytime I got something, they had to get it and then it began to feel like a competition. I kinda pulled away, and just kept some of my business to myself. I say. u can't tell everything positive going on with u if they're not doing so hot, u are bound to get some negative feedback. Just take it as a compliment and keep it moving....she likes your style.

[Renee Carter]

 

Hi Germanie

I think that you should take the advice of those close to you and distance yourself from this person. There is too much drama going on here and the end results will most likely be conflict, so its best to just step off and focus on your family your studies and where you will go from there. All this unecessary drama just serves to distract you from the purpose of going forward with your life. Pray for this woman and her well being thats all the involvement you should have.

Many blessiings

Renee

[Tanja Etheridge]

I'm a bit late in responding but just had to add just 2 cents: run.
A friend is supportive, encouraging, and you're spirit should be at ease when you are with her. You two are obviously on different paths also.

[Germanie]

Thanks ladies for your opinions. They really helped me chose my direction with this.