IF YOU KNEW ALL THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF BEING A MARRIED WOMAN, WOULD YOU HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED?"

[adrienne strachn]

I DONT KNOW ABOUT YOU, BUT MY MOM MADE MARRIAGE OUT LIKE YOU WERE GOING TO BE SO HAPPY ABOUT IT ALL YOUR LIFE.. LIKE EVERYTHING WAS GOING TO BE LIKE MAGIC "THE DONNA REID SYMDROME" , IF YOU WERE MARRIED. SEX WAS GOING TO BE TERRIFIC "ALWAYS" YOU WILL NEVER REFUSE YOUR HUSBAND SEXUALLY, YOU WOULD LOVE YOUR CHILDREN BECAUSE YOUR HORMONES AND LOVING YOUR HUSBAND MADE IT SO.WHEN YOU HAD KIDS, YOU SUSPOSE TO BE HAPPY.WORKING,. DOING LAUNDRY, CLEANING THE HOUSE AND COOKING, BEING ON TIME FOR YOUR HUSBAND, HAVING YOUR KIDS IN BED OR READY FOR BED WHEN HUBBY CAME HOME GAVE YOU TIME FOR HIM.
ALWAYS LOOK GOOD, DO NOT WEAR CURLERS, DO NOT STAY IN YOUR NIGHTGOWN ALL DAY. THESE ARE THE THINGS MOMMA SAID ALL THE TIME. IT NEVER ENDED.. FORTUNATELY, I COULD NEVER KEEP UP.... HE DOES ALOT FOR ME. I TRIED IN THE BEGINING IT WAS TOO MUCH FOR ME.. DAM I WAS SINGLE NO RESPONSIBILITIES BEFORE I WAS MARRIED, WHAT ABOUT ME? NOW WHAT DO YOU THINK, WHAT ABOUT YOU LADIES...IS IT HARD TO BE THAT GOOD SPIRITUAL LOVING WIFE, SINGLE MOM ....

[adrienne strachn]

I GUESS YOU HAVE TO GET MARRIED TO SEE HOW IT WORKS.. BUT I WOULD SAY ALWAYS HAVE AN OPEN MIND,,IF HE ACTS CONTROLLING, IF HE HAS A ROLLING EYE.. HE GONNA HAVE IT IN MARRIAGE. THIS GOES FOR MEN AND WOMAN..SOME WOMAN GIVE UP JUST LIKE MEN..

[Karis Major]

Just reading this discussion...interesting....good to know that I'm not the only frustrated wife/mother!!

Been married almost 5 years now.......sometimes I think my DH was a better DH when we were dating....... I think we both walked into this marriage with certain expections and ideas of what married life would be like, unfortunately, they barely overlap. I grew up in home where everything revolved around my dad......sometimes it seemed like my mom lived to serve him.... there were things I thought he could do for himslef, cleanuip behind himself, but he left it for her or the maid to do. I promised myself I didnt want a marriage like that...I didnt watn to be treated like or feel like someone's maid or slave. I struggle wiht that alot. I need DH to be more of a help aorund the house and with our daughter. But I have to spell things out like he's never done it before...every time!!! Would I do this again? But for the angel I have for a daughter, I really dont know... i's hard to remember the good when there are so many frustrating moments.

[Michelle S. Hawkins]

My parents were together until my father died. They raised their seven and six others though various stages of their lives. The main thing is that they worked at their marriage. I divorced both my husbands because they didn't get it was something you had to work at to make it work.

I have every intention of marrying again and hope this will be the final time. This is really a great topic because I see to many males and females who don't realize or don't want to accept the reality of what marriage requires. The marriage is your family now,everyone is your relatives. You can't put others before your marriage family or you won't have a marriage for long. Please remember sisters super mom is dead amy she rest in peace. Always take time for yourself, becauseyou are the nucleaus of the family, the glue that holds it together. Do what you need to do to keep you happy and healthy and your family will be the same.
Peace,
Michelle wirequeen.com

[Karis Major]

I like what you said Michelle "supermom is dead, may she rest in peace."....and yet here were are trying to do it all, except taking time for ourselves. I will keep that in mind as I go through this holiday season and definately as I look forward to the new year.