What are they teaching THESE KIDS!!!

[Mahogany Momma]

I just saw this video... couldn't post it on BMC but you can click here to watch. PLEASE COME BACK HERE AND COMMENT ... I was up in arms when I saw this one... this is just too much! Moms do chime in.


This is sad and not appropriate ... these kids are too young and these things are being taught earlier and earlier and ... alright go watch the video. - lh

[Chandra]

I must agree with Lasanda. I am far from shocked. I saw a 1st grader completely undress on the play ground while dancing because "that's how my mama does it!" This is what happen when women raise their daughters to be women and not LADIES!

[Pastor:Jeanett Flowers]

@Nappykat,I agree this is how one should apporch the issue because sex is not nasty and sinful and the greatest way to share lessons with our children,as you gave a rational pattern to imploy conversation and respect for their thought process,without letting your views be the end all , Making up their own minds based on seeing cause and effect. This is our greatest gift to relay to our children. Now do we say that our reaction is based on western thought or is this resonating something deep within us to know this is imbalanced. Yes, one has to come to their own true mind,and not the illusion that we are being bombarttted with as truth. I am sure some here could come up with better rites of passage programs for the betterment of our people as a whole,than unbridled energy misdirected and leaning to futhering our already over whelmed issues as parents. Fertility has been celebrated by our ancestor with purpose and poise to teach about the universe and in knowing self. Using this energy as a creative force to help all of the community. But never was it taught to have this energy misused to our destruction. We wouldn't have come this far as a people if we didn't understand and know this. And it appears that most don't have the basic training and love to share.You can't give what you don't have,unless some one has shared love and tolorence and right information with them.

[Nikki]

I think that it may be a cultural thing. Although it seemed too sexual for children in my mind, I thought about the fact that this is a culture in which they celebrate a girls womanhood or "coming out" at the age of 15. So I got to thinking that the age issue for us as Americans may not be the same for this particular culture.

[Kisha]

I CAN"T BELIEVE THESE PEOPLE!!!!!!!! Not only are the adults standing there laughing, their helping them do it right!!!!! And then after all that they vote on who did it the best?!?!?!?!?!? WTF?!?!?!?!?

[Fatima Stacey]

This is really a shame I can almost bet none of them are up to grade level in school. The parents need A WAKE UP CALL. IS THIS REALLY OUR FUTURE? Lord help us if it is!

[Pastor:Jeanett Flowers]

[yvo]

SO SAD. child protective services should go and get those babies.

[Nappykat]

Well it's nice to know all yall have the same darn opinions *rolls eyes*

[quote]I must agree with Lasanda. I am far from shocked. I saw a 1st grader completely undress on the play ground while dancing because "that's how my mama does it!" This is what happen when women raise their daughters to be women and not LADIES![/quote]

I have a negative connotation with the word 'lady' so I raise my daughters to be women and NOT ladies. And they are not out there doing the hootchie dance. Find another term to scapegoat please.

PastorFlowers, thank you for an actual discussion on the subject. I agree with your entire posts. Here's what I'm thinking....

[quote]Now do we say that our reaction is based on western thought or is this resonating something deep within us to know this is imbalanced.[/quote]

Black men (and women) have taken the racist notion that they (we) are sexual, wonton, lascivious, aggressive, and can turn a man or a woman out as a positive. We don't have a lot of positive racial stereotypes so maybe we grasp on to whatever stereotype we think we can make positive and run with it. You don't see people fighting what is percieved as positive racial stereotypes.
Mexicans don't find that they are hard workers.
Asians don't fight that they are smart.
Jews don't find that they are good with money or spendthrifts.

As blacks, what positive stereotype do we have that isn't sexual or physical? So maybe this is something we have grabbed ahold too and pushing it down the line with our children. I am not condoning the behavior but try to study and analyze it. And yes, you are right that this is very off balanced behavior to what we know and were taught in past.

[quote]And it appears that most don't have the basic training and love to share.You can't give what you don't have,unless some one has shared love and tolorence and right information with them.[/quote] I gave what I don't have. Or maybe I always had it, I just had to find it. I recently wrote this in a letter to someone....

[i]'I started out and continued to be emotionally and psychologically neglected and unnurished, lovelorn, and I do believe I was verbally abused during the course of my relationship...As a child, you can not understand and identify the problems of your family and elders; you know only of your own problems and what you are going through. As I've gotten older, hopefully matured, and through self-reflection and the on-going personal self-improvement journey, I have come to understand some of my own issues of the past as well as that of my family...

Some of us have a good foundation with which to grow and build on. Some of us have a foundation with cracks in it and may be on the verge of collapse. Some of have no foundation and have to build our own. I had no foundation, or one that had collapsed. From where do I draw the strength? From whom or where do I learn what I haven't already learned and have no one to teach to me? In the process of building my kids and myself - I make mistakes. I f*ck up. It's all trial and error and I guess that's the process of life. But I always remember what it felt like to be a lonely, neglected, and undernourished child and that is what I build my foundation on. I remember and I don't want my kids to feel the same way or feel the way I did so I make up new lesson plans from scratch.'[/i]

As I write, I also think this behavior is about acceptance. We have lost our way, our self-esteem, and our value. We are undernourished and screaming for love. As blacks we don't live in a vaccuum. Our community in a lot of ways is a mirror of the larger society - which is very sexually orientated in a negative way. Little white girls are also very lost and doing sexual things to gain attention and acceptance - just like we are doing. I ain't that concerned about the white folks, but it's hard to care about just the one (my people) when it's affected by others (those people). So I guess I care about everybody regardless.

[Marie]

No one is teaching the kids,.... that is the problem! Our teachers are expected to be mother, father,couselor,nurturer,psychiatrist,motivator, referee and then go home and attend to our OWN families!

"It’s Crunch Time!”, This is a new children’s book by Marie Brewer (www.helenbrewer.com for the link to book) This is my book of muscle for boys (ages 9-12) to point them in the direction of HOPE!...This is an interactive book where they can write about their feelings. It discusses acceptable behavior, honesty, good self-image, respect for females and animals, appreciation for teachers/school, choosing good friends. The book also talks about resisting gangs, guns, drugs, violence, alcohol and bad influences. Let's attack the behavior, not the boy. "It's Crunch Time!" , by Marie Brewer, www.bbotw.com. Be a part of the village to help our boys envision their true God-given purpose!
We can turn this thing around! SEE! THINK ! ACT!
Heaven gives us hope! Marie Brewer