Why are these Children so violent?

[Georgetta Rena Scott]

I believe that is because of the lack of parenting

[Nappykat]

What is the opposite of lack?

Abundance?

How does an 'abundance' of parenting look like?

[Bridget]

Children do as they see. You as a parent can do your best to keep your child from the violence by keeping them away from video games, movies etc. But when they are away from you at school, friends house etc they are subjected to many things and they see their friends do. All we as parents can do is remind out kids that violence is not the answer

[Nappykat]

Are folks always looking for the easy blame? It's always the parents, the television, the movies, the video games, the music, etc. AMERICA is a violent place. It thrives on violence. It loves violence. Children are a really a reflection of what America is all about. As is everyone else.

But in any case...

Even teens that may be classified as 'violent' know that violence is not the answer. Violent aggression is a way to release to stress. It's a call for help and understanding. It's a way to call attention to frustration. It's a way of berating someone when you feel berated and devalued.

I know what being an aggrieved teen is like. I had thoughts of killing or injuring several people I thought had wrong me or contributed to what I thought was to the unbearable hell I thought was my life. A thought can easily be made into an action without considering the reprimands or consequences of it. I know if I had had a knife or gun in my immediate possession at the time I was ridiculed or emotionally hurt by a peer, there is a strong possibility that they would have been hurt or dead. Yes, ofcourse I know violence is wrong, but what you know doesn't help what you feel at the time. All you know is that you want harm to come to the ones that are hurting you (embarrassing you, ridiculing you, alienating you) and some teens who have been emotionally wounded or hurt want to exert their perceived control and authority over these that see as weaker. They want to try to take back what they feel they lost to the child that devalued them, their strength, dignity, and their control over the situation. Aggression and violence seems like a way to do that. Even adults (especially men) try to get back whatever they think is missing by violence. That is at the heart of domestic violence situations where men are the perpetrator.

I never had to teach my kids that violence isn't the answer. No one has to teach a child that. Believe it or not, children by nature are good, compassionate, sympathetic, and decent human beings. When they act out in an aggressive manner, the first thing I want to know is what is wrong. What do they feel. I never had to teach my kids that violence isn't the answer. No one has to teach a child that. Believe it or not, children by nature are good, compassionate, sympathetic, and decent human beings. When mine act out in an aggressive manner, the first thing I want to know is what is wrong. What do they feel. Why do they feel hurt. What has happened. I talk about and acknowledge their hurt and that eases some of the pain. I offer alternative ways of dealing with it and I also let them know why children act the way that act – and that those children act like that because they too are hurting.

That is the thing that is causing violence and aggression in children (or anyone else for that matter) – lack of acknowledgment and understanding for their feelings, lack of someone being able to ease their pain, lack of someone offering them physical and emotional love that they so desperately need and desire. And the older a child gets, the more physically and emotionally distant we are to our children. So where do they turn? Where does anyone turn?

[Marie]

Many times it is that they are holding anger inside. I'm a retired teacher and saw some kids come to school angry.Maybe they are angry with their present situation or discontent with parents or siblings. Whatever the cause , the anger can lead to physical attacks on others for little or no reason. I think if we constantly talk to our children and let them write their feeling down (journal), it will help to make them move passive and adjust to conflict rather than go the aggressive route. Marie


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