SINGLE MOTHERS RAISING SONS

Comment by Nicholle on June 28, 2009 at 1:33pm

Hi Moms!

First of all, Thank you Ebonie for creating this group. Greetings to all of the moms here on Single Mothers raising sons.

I am a single mother, raising 2 sons, age 10 and 7. I am definitely looking forward to discussing the joys of having sons, and open to any advice available from moms whose sons are older than mine. I need to know what to expect and be prepared.

I believe in the power of community and family. I know that we can be successful parents who raise successful sons into successful men with the right tools and support. I cant wait to hear about your experiences.

Nicholle

Comment by Lashanda Barber on July 24, 2009 at 6:04pm

Hi..Im new ro this site..a single mom in Charlotte NC with a 7 year old son looking to share ideas with other women trying to raise up productive self assured young black men

Comment by Yosay on September 2, 2009 at 5:55pm

I think this is a great group and was wondering if anyone has thought about starting or being apart of a national community of black moms with sons either biological or adoptive who provide advice and support for one another?

I plan to start adopting children (mostly boys) in 1 year because I think it is imperative that we reclaim our children from the foster care system. Plus, so many of our black male children get neglected. I would like to raise some boys into men to add to the much depleted pool of black men in our communities.

Comment by Tracy on September 6, 2009 at 10:48am

Hey Yosay, I'm still working on the one that I have now, so I better not add on more to my plate right now. I have ((MAD)) respect for anyone that is raising more than one son at a time. It's a handful to say the least.

My daughter and her husband are taking classes to become foster parents. They both work in charter schools and see the need for "good parents". They are focused on getting children with siblings so that they can stay together and not be sent to different homes.

I believe that once they get the children they'll change their minds about being foster parents because they are not going to want the children to be uprooted once they get there.

As for myself, I'll have to see what position I'm in once my son is grown and gone, I will have to "assest" my parenting skills with my own before I feel comfortable trying to do it again, especially with a child that I didn't have all of his life. But it's something to give great thought to.

Comment by Sharon Rodriguez on September 8, 2009 at 10:16am

A wonderful longitudinal study (approximately 30yrs of research) that gives encouragement to those of us who have been led to believe that we couldn't raise our beautiful, happy babies into successful well adjusted functional adults without a daddy...Turns out, yes, having him is a plus, but not having is not the deciding factor in our successes or failures: It's STABILITY!

Check out the article "Family stability may be more crucial than two parents for child success" by Jeff Grabmeier, http://www.physorg.com/news170936050.html

(I'm going to try to locate the actual article some other time)...

Comment by Rhonda McKnight on September 22, 2009 at 11:49pm

Hello,
I'm new here. Raising two sons, aged 17 and 3. Next month they'll be 18 and 4. I've been a single mom for about a year and a half so it's new for me and a big adjustment.

I work fulltime and I'm also a parttime writer. My debut novel, Secrets and Lies will be released with Urban Christian Books on Nov 24th and will be available wherever books are sold. You may find out more about me at my website by clicking here.

Looking forward to the fellowship.

Comment by Striving on October 7, 2009 at 8:22pm

Hello, I am a single mother of 2 young men ages 14 and 11. I must say that I love it. When I first got preganant I wanted a girl so bad and God surely knew what he was doing by blessing me with two boys. My only challenge is I am scared that I can't teach them to be men but I can provide them the life skills of what it takes to be a good person. My priority and focus is that they grow up knowing the lord for themself and strive to be the best man they can be! I am looking forward to these discussions. Have an awesome and blessed day!

Comment by Marie on October 25, 2009 at 10:27am

Hello everyone. This group is so current and much needed! I am a retired teacher. I have no sons, but do have 4 nephews....so I know the boys very well. I would be happy to answer any questions you all may have. Be encouraged, Marie

"It’s Crunch Time!”, is a new children’s book by Marie Brewer (www.helenbrewer.com for the
link to book) This is my book of muscle for boys (ages 9-12) to point them in the direction of HOPE!...This is an interactive book where they can write about their feelings. It discusses acceptable behavior, honesty, good self-image, respect for females and animals, appreciation for teachers/school, choosing good friends. The book also talks about resisting gangs, guns, drugs, violence, alcohol and bad influences. Let's attack the behavior, not the boy. "It's Crunch Time!" , by Marie Brewer, www.bbotw.com. Be a part of the village to help our boys envision their true God-given purpose!
We can turn this thing around! SEE! THINK ! ACT!
Heaven gives us hope! Marie Brewer

Comment by SingleBlackMaMa on June 13, 2010 at 1:26pm

Single Mothers of Color - Uniting single mothers of color in a positive environment. We will discuss the joys & stresses of single parenting. We're here to share advice, our experiences as well as stories, laughs, cries and offer our support & encouragement. We're not here to judge or criticize! Single fathers welcomed!
http://groups.google.com/group/single-mothers-of-color

Comment by Derrick Barnes on November 16, 2010 at 9:44pm

http://www.derrickbarnes.com

Two thirteen-year-old African-American boys become friends during a three day stint in an after school suspension. They were both involved in two unrelated incidents with the same person, the resident menace at Alain Locke Middle, Tariq Molten. Robeson Battlefield is from a two-parent household, where both parents are highly successful and educated. Academic achievement, social consciousness and responsibility are reinforced daily in the Battlefield household. Pacino Clapton comes from a single parent household; his mom works two fulltime jobs. Pacino has a ton of responsibilities, including cutting hair to help pay bills, and taking care of his twin five-year-old sisters.

During this three day span, the young men visit each others home, and "chop it up" on a multitude of subjects including respect of self and Black women, the dire state of hip-hop music, the use of the dreaded "N" word, and masculinity. Before long, the three boys are on a collision course. And when they do intersect, their lives are changed forever. We Could Brothers addresses the presence and lack of positive male leadership in the home, and how it dictates the way young African American men view themselves, each other, and the world around them. Mentorship, brotherhood, and an emphasis on that old adage "each-one-teach-one" are very real and tangible themes in this new YA literary masterpiece.

Release date: November 1st, 2010

ISBN-10: 0545135737
ISBN-13: 978-0545135733

Pages: 178
Ages: 9-14

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