How do you feel sexy?

[Iyabo]

After being pregnant for 9 months, gaining 20 pounds post baby, and being exhausted from the daily toll of living and motherhood--I DO NOT FEEL SEXY. I realized a month ago that I had no sexy panties in my drawer! None! At the time, I could not remember the last time I put on lingerie for my husband! I promptly went to the store the next day and bought two outfits and a few pairs of panties. When I look in the mirror at myself--I just don't see that sexy diva I was before getting pregnant. The hardest struggle for me to deal is that since having baby, I am over 200 pounds now. I am repulsed by my body and becoming depressed by it. I have had to go up 2 sizes in clothing and that is not helping me feel good. I have been trying to add a workout regiment to my day, but I am already overwhelmed with just keeping up with motherhood. Even still, I know it is going to take time before I see results, but what do I do in the meantime to "bring sexy back"?

[Moni]

Hey there,
You know bringing sexy back is a state of mind and emotions. And it sounds like you're just not feeling it. I strongly believe that stress, be it self-induced or real (like having a new baby and hormonal and body changes) play a large part of feeling sexy. For me, I've had to make time to spend with the husband intimately. If your husband isn't bothered by your temporary weight gain (meaning he still wants to love you up) then you're in a great position. Now it's about working on you and meeting his needs while you do so, you know? Bringing sexy back or keeping sexy in for me is definitely part wardrobe, (sexy undergarments and bed-time slips instead of tee-shirts etc.), smelling so good, and being creative when it's time to be intimate. Try playing some games beforehand, doing a little edible chocolate or strawberry oils/powders to get you in the spirit and also, the enhancers are helpful too. A classy site to visit and purchase some of the above items is www.itslifeitslove.com

Hope this helps.

[Mz.Vanessa]

I know I'm late but I agree with both ladies but also keep in mind......THAT IS BORROWED WEIGHT :-) doesn't belong to you. It's "BABY". After I had my son I felt the same way but I kept in mind that it did not belong to me and it was easier to get rid of the weight. I watched what I ate because I was breastfeeding and drank alot of water. Give it atleast 6 months. (let's be real). When you look at yourself in the mirror invision the before body. Let that be your goal. Right now it's just more of you to love. You have to feel sexy and generate that energy towards your husband. Don't worry about the lingerie because that doesn't stay on that long anyway. Here's and idea: if your husband is in the bed room come out the shower and lotion up infront of him. Like really sensually but act like he's not there. Lotion and love every part of the temporary you. Concentrate on the baby, eat small meals, take a nice bath, have a glass a wine and put it on him like you did before. If you need any help I do have other things. My site is www.brownstarluv.com......you never know. :-)

[Angel Pennington]

I am actually in the same boat as you. I had two kids in a two year period so I gained 40 pounds after it all. I use to feel bad too, but I started thinking outside the box. Yes I gain weight but I am still a sexy woman just with curves. If your husband loved you then he will love you now. Just start walking to get the weight off and I know how it is when you feel like you dont have the energy. Its all about motivation and confidence you know its a mind thing. If you make up in your mind that you are beautiful no matter what then you will be ok. Start pampering yourself and you will feel better.

[Deborah Burnett]

I am kind of in the same boat. I have went from size 10/12 to 16/18. My face is showing fat, along with everything else. I way what I did 5 years ago when I had my son. I don't feel very attractive either. My husband still desires me, but, I' not used to the weight. I have always been a skinny mini and now in this past 1 year or so, I've gained a considreable amount of weight.I'm going to start fresh with my eating habits and exercise in the new year, because last week when I got my depo shot, the nurse said something about how much weight I had gained.