Love is relative

[A mothers love]

One of the most important lessons I have come to learn and would like to speak is love, and how love is relative. As little girls we begin seeking love, our ultimate goal is to be loved not necessarily to love, which is mistake number one but we will touch on that at a later date. We get married under the premise of LOVE. But until we are married we have no clue that the one thing which gets us together is not the thing which keeps us together. That which KEEPS us together is the big " C " word, thats right commitment. See, there are times in our relationship where we can't stand the sight of our spouse and we wonder why we even thought we could love him/her yet we stay in the relationship, once we realize that love is relative and its the commitment which has kept us hanging on maybe then will we see the divorce rate begin to decline. Commit to become committed ! Understanding is the key, one of our most famous quotes is " Without knowledge the people perish " if we do not understand our internal dynamics and how they affect our relationships, then understand our partners internal dynamics and how the combination of the two affect how we deal and process feelings, pain, anger etc then we will continue to live in the fantasy of love instead of the reality of commitment, which produce unhealthy relationships and is passed on to our children to emulate our dysfunctional behaviors. Always remember LOVE is relative. When you are at the end of your relationship lifeline and you want to let go, do not question your feelings, feelings are fleeting they can't be trusted, but question your commitment. Is your word bond ? IS YOUR WORD BOND ? Are you a woman of your word ? All a man/woman has is their word, if they don't have that they do not have anything.

I want to leave you with 4 points.

1. Love is relative its all about commitment.
2. Seek to understand THEN to be understood !
3. Is YOUR word bond ? If so, then you MUST keep it.
4. Commit to be committed !

Be Blessed & Be committed.

[Mommy Dearest]

Insightful, informative, realistic and so, soooooooo...True! My parents have been married 50 years and my husband and I, 22 years. Yes, the LOVE is necessary and but COMMITMENT is the glue that creates the true marital BOND (until dead do we part). One of my favorite scriptures scriptures, Song of Songs love reads as follows:

Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.

But before you can experience (survive and live through) the true beauty and power of those words, you must place a SEAL over your heart, in inward COMMITMENT and on your arm, as an outward display of that COMMITMENT. So if you like...put a SEAL on it!

Mommy Dearest
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[Trisha Martin]

A Mother's Love, this is some good stuff, BUTTTT, you can commit to being committed, but there still is a time to let go. I committed to the institution of marriage and that is why I stayed married as long as I did, but there comes a time when you realize that it takes two and nobody wants to play solitaire if there is supposed to be two players. That's just being realistic. People should first make sure all of the basic ingredients are there in a relationship before marriage is even discussed. How you gonna build a house on rocky foundation and expect it to stand or last? and that just mi3centsworth.